We think we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, true empathy.

Monday Circle Reflections, December 21, 2020


We think we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, true empathy. Yet listening, of this very special kind, is one of the most potent forces for change that I know. - Carl Rogers


Beginning at my throat chakra, I could feel all the inner tubes and airways that connect my throat to my ears. And I realized how much more comfortable it was to breathe when I engaged my ears along with my mouth and throat.

It actually calmed my entire nervous system. With the focus on my ears, I focused more on what I could take in, and the stress of what I should be broadcasting or doing was gone.

This feeling continued into my heart and throughout the whole treatment.

The more I focused on my ears, on listening, and on taking in all that was around me, the less guarded I felt. And in their absence, I realized how much energy my defences require. When I wasn't worried about what needed defending or maintaining my resistance, I felt open and at ease.

The focus on my ears and listening helped me connect to what was going on with me too. It was easier to feel my body; it was more evident what I was feeling and what I needed.

This week, I invite you to use your ears more. When you are breathing, breathe in through your ears. When you speak with people and feel the urge to talk, pause, breathe, and listen to them for just a little longer. When your body tenses up in that way our bodies do because you disagree with someone, pause, breathe and feel how that shuts down your heart. Breathe in and see if you can be curious for a little while.

What can you learn, what can you gain, if you aren't focused on being right or having to say something? What happens when you focus instead on understanding each other, what the person in front of you needs, or what you need from them instead of who is right or wrong?


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